Month: January 2013

notes on asking someone to dance

The last post I wrote generated a few interesting and thoughtful comments. Most notably, I was struck by this comment: New dancers need to know that when someone says “no,” it’s not necessarily about them personally. And at the same time, it can help them to have some idea about things that dancers can work on to make it more…

the importance of saying “yes”

There’s this thing in Swing Dancing. We don’t say “no.” At least, that’s the cultural norm. I have often comforted beginners by assuring them, “Don’t worry – they’ll say yes!” The difficulty is that this cultural norm creates an obligation which can be, at times, mildly annoying to more advanced dancers. There are those who dislike having their right to…

dance posts: reference / archive

This is a reference to all the posts on dancing which I have written in the past. These posts were originally published on move(me)nt, but as the focus of that blog split, this blog was created to house all future posts which relate to dancing and the dancing community. The posts are listed by topic, and then in reverse chronological…